Why?...

Someone asked me, "How?" They said, "If I asked you how to connect the dots of my life, what would you tell me to do?"

I answered, "How? I can't tell you how...shoot, I wish someone would tell me how!" lol. "Truth is I'm still figuring it out...and I am very early on in the connecting process..."

The individual immediately followed up with the question, "Then, why?, why did you feel like you needed to begin the process of connecting?"

Now that's a question I feel I have a more solid answer to...the "why"... I don't know how, yet, but I know why...

The reason why was nothing other than simply being tired...

I was beyond the point of anxious, stressed, desperate, depressed...that was the roller coaster of emotion that I had been riding for years...and then I just got tired...I got tired of having those feelings...I got tired of hiding those feelings...I got tired of suppressing and internalizing those feelings...I got tired of pretending those feelings didn't exist... So it wasn't the feelings that brought me to the point of processing... Sometimes we as individuals look at emotions as something to do... Something to keep us busy... I won't go as far as to say we enjoy being on the emotional roller coaster but, rather, we have become so used to being on one that we can't imagine a life without having "something" to deal with... So we make ourselves believe that it is simply our plight... We continue to focus on those emotions... we live in them... we breathe in them... we dress ourselves in them... we eat in them... we sleep in them ... And if we are not careful, we die in them...

But there comes a time where we have to make a decision ... point blank... Are we going to continue on in that same manner and live that way forever? Hoping that things will fix themselves? Or are we going to change?

It was that I was so tired.. I couldn't deal with it anymore... I was tired of saying yes when I meant no... tired of smiling when I felt like crying... tired of living when I felt like I was dying...literally and figuratively...

I made the decision to do something different... They say when you are offering something to others, don't make it about you... but this is about ME! Me sharing ME, ME being ME, ME doing ME... it's all about ME! And if I can encourage someone along the way, that's a win for both of us!

A better ME, means a better mother to my children, a better family member to those I love, a better friend for others to lean on, and a better vessel to be used by God Almighty...

So for me, the decision to begin the process of connecting the dots came from being tired...exhausted even...and I still get tired...but the more tired I get, the more I connect these here dots...

Whatever your reason, take a stand to live for the process of changing, rather than sleep, whither away, or even die in the process of staying the same...

~ Resse

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